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First things first

If you don’t know the details of your wedding day just yet, you no doubt know you want a wedding day that’s unique to you – a special day that embraces your likes and quirks, personal preferences, ideal budget and dream location. The most important advice I can give you is, never think you have to compete with anyone else’s wedding or the beautiful things you see on Instagram and wedding blogs. Take everything you see as simple inspiration. Keep notes on the things you like and ditch the things you don’t.

Avoid the self-proclaimed experts

You’ll be amazed how many wedding experts will appear in your life as soon as you tell them you’re engaged. You’ll hear ‘what you should do is….’ over and over and over again from people who planned their own wedding and now have all the answers! Just remember, what they chose may not be your choice. What worked for them, may not be your dream. Have the confidence to go your own way. Don’t be afraid to tell them you might be going in a different direction. Your engagement is not an open invitation for them to plan their own wedding over again! And don’t be rushed. Take your time. Make wise choices and sensible decisions when you’re ready. Be strict with yourself if need be, but allow yourself some purges too, if the budget allows! Most of all, enjoy this time of engagement and the journey to ‘I do’ that lies ahead!

Where to begin

Start your wedding planning journey by clearing the slate of ideas and inspiration. You’ll probably rush out and buy every wedding magazine available and overwhelm yourself with all the possibilities but there’s no harm in enjoying the ride. But don’t make any decisions on ANYTHING before you know your budget. This is so important. This is the time to put your sensible hat on. How much money do you have to spend? How much money do you WANT to spend?

The reason I say don’t rush into things is because simply asking 4 friends to be your bridesmaids, before you know your budget, could mean you’ve blown over a grand before you’ve even begun! It pays to take your time. Don’t commit to anything before you have to. No matter when you want to tie the knot, the first few days of taking it slow will benefit you in the long run.

Budget management is incredibly important to ensure you can hopefully have the wedding you want. 

Must-Have Lists

You’ll each have ideas for the big day – hopefully agreeing on some! It’s important to discuss your must have’s with each other. Marriage is all about compromise so it’s a good place to start!

Each of you privately write a list of your top 5 priorities – your ‘must haves’ for the big day. When you’ve finished, compare notes. Who wants what? Create a third list together, first adding the priorities that match (hopefully there’ll be some!).  If you don’t agree on anything sit down and talk things through. If you’ve decided on your budget you’ll know whether any of the must-haves are doable. It helps to create a ‘wish list’ too so that someone’s ideas aren’t struck off completely.

Top Tip – start with your guest list. Who do you want to invite… or not! Knowing your guest numbers is integral to your budget and will be invaluable when you start looking for your venue. Your venue in turn will play an important role in the look and feel of your wedding.

EJ x

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